Enough to break the ice.
Hi, i’m back. I know, I know…it’s been a while.
You will be happy to know I survived the LSAT and the 20 mile run.
How did I do on the LSAT? I have no idea.
How did I do on the run? Amazing.
But enough about the Saturday from hell…on to bigger and better things.
Like affection.
Are you affectionate?
I’m not and I need to step it up.
Neither side of my family is (hey, fam if you want to argue you can…). We don’t hug and kiss and all that mushy gushy stuff. We love each other. We tell each other “Love you” but not at the end of every phone call. I think we all need to step it up.
Kisses
Hugs
Cuddling (ehhhhh)
Holding Hands
Touching ( I said touching…not fondling!)
Yes, I have done all of these (Ahhhh shocking! I know I am a crazy.) but not all out in public. I get uncomfortable. Issues?! Maybe yes. Maybe no. I should really get over this.
Question: Why do I think I need to up my affectionate side?
Answer: Because maybe it makes other people feel more comfortable around me. And maybe it is through the amount of affection I show that people judge if I like them or not. Where as I like people to talk about it maybe I should start pulling the “if your gonna talk about it, you better be about it” way of life.
I am the queen of the slow jam playlist and I know romance when I see it. I also know corny-ness when I see it.
Now that I wrote this down and had time to think about it, maybe I will try this affection thing next month. It sounds harder than the LSAT followed by a 20 mile run.
If Paula Abdul were still singing her early ’90s hit (please don’t Paula) she would belt out that I was “a cold hearted snake.” I hope at least one person out there knows that song and is singing the rest of it.
PDA comes easy for some people, others not so much. My family was the same way as yours growing up. We never said I love you that often, or greeted with hugs or kisses. Things have changed since I’ve gotten older and have begun to realize that I need to treasure the relationship I have with my parents before they’re gone. I find myself saying “I love you” on the phone a lot more now.
I am different in my romantic relationships though, I am a PDA junkie. Nothing over the top, just hand holding or small kiss/hug etc. That for some reason came a lot easier than showing affection to family for me.
My family is very affectionate and I’m a totally mush. Michael is very lovey in private, but not in public. I think that’s a good balance. Do what’s comfortable for you. There’s no right or wrong.
Wow, you must be getting CLOSE! Couple more weeks of easy runs and then the marathon? I’ve got to go read up and find out. If it’s not wedding season it is DEFINITELY marathon season. I know a handful of people who have them coming up in the next few weeks. Good luck!
And as for the affection–my family is extremely affectionate. I’m sure people look at my sister and I and wonder when the heck we’re going to grow up and stop being overly dependent on our mother for love and affection. But hey, it works for us.
Done with the LSAT, huh? Congrats! Now, you have the luxury of a nerve-wracking waiting process while you continually think to yourself “Goddamn, I hope that extra Logical Reasoning section was experimental…”
Also, as a distance runner myself (ran XC/track in H.S. and was on the Club XC team at PSU), good luck with that marathon! I’ve been meaning to do one myself but alas, as a super-busy law student it’s difficult to squeeze in the necessary runs during the week.
My family not so affectionate. Renee’s family, totally affectionate. me, somewhere in the middle. But it’s weird. It really can be. I do things almost based on the people I’m around. It’s weird. Trying to raise A & E affectionately.
You asked for it Lissa- I’m gonna love and hug and kiss on you all the day long!!! Just like I did when you were little. I love you Larisa.XXXOOO
You asked for it Lissa- I’m gonna love and hug and kiss on you all the day long!!! Just like I did when you were little. I love you Larisa.XXXOOO